I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it means to be a good host. I’m a fan of the book The Art of Gathering, which reflects and has shaped a lot of my thinking about this. But I’d be remiss not to call out what I learned from my mother when my brother and I were very small about the sacred responsibility of hospitality. Sacred to Zeus, that is; Mom was a student of anthropology and classical archaeology at the time.
Perhaps it’s obvious that I’m thinking about Button 2025 coming up, and I want to do a good job for our community and Team Button. But it goes deeper than that in my practice as a UX practitioner, educator, presenter, and person.
When I’m creating UX, including content or design systems for experiences, I’m constantly imagining how people enter that experience. I try to answer the question: what will make them feel welcome? This initial moment is critical. When people come into a space, including physical and virtual spaces, by themselves or in groups, with some range of prior expectation and experience—all of these preconditions affect how they will feel in those first few moments.
As an educator and presenter, the same critical moment happens at the beginning of a class or workshop. Do people see each other as a group they can belong to? Can they trust the environment, the subject matter, and the instructor? I think a lot about making the first few moments credible, inviting, psychologically safe, and engaging.
Honestly, the same thing happens in a book. Prefaces are hard to write, and they’re often the best place to set the tone for the rest of the book. But many folks skip prefaces, so it’s also important to ensure that the first chapter is also welcoming, without being redundant.
After the welcome, there’s the work of hosting throughout the event. At a party with diverse guests, especially when different groups of guests don’t know each other, it’s the host’s responsibility to keep the introductions, conversation, refreshments, and activities flowing. In a UX, a good “host” makes sure that you don’t get distracted during a multi-step process, that you have reliable confirmations about the steps you have taken, and that each new part of the experience is inviting, in turn.
While I host Button 2025, I’ll be thinking about and trying to put into practice all of these ideas. For the upcoming conference, I’m still considering the ways in which I can facilitate your experience, help the speakers to shine, and stay on track (while participating in the Slack, of course). If you have advice or encouragement for me, please let me know! I’m hoping to be a good host for you and represent Team Button well.